Life, Chance, and Randomness
Rationally I know that life is inherently governed by chance to a significant degree. Yet it seems there are some people, groups of people, families, etc. that are disproportionately affected by negative experiences and outcomes than others. Many turn to religion as a way to try and explain the unexplainable, yet I have never been someone to do that. At least not to the degree where I think there is a god that is directly controlling the outcomes of every event for every individual on earth or elsewhere. That doesn’t mean I still don’t wonder why some people seem to have a significant number of negative life experiences than others.
This morning I was reminded of this type of situation when I learned a person I grew up with had passed away unexpectedly. This is not the first time someone in this family that I grew up near has passed away unexpectedly. The previous situation was even more tragic and heartbreaking. Then add to these more recent situations that the parents of these people had gone through a nasty divorce due to infidelity, that they had things like fires happen in their home during the time I lived near them, etc. and it seems like the odds were always stacked against them.
That begs the question, how did they end up on these paths versus others that did not? There is an argument to be made that they were the logical result of the sum of many prior less significant, but not always positive, decisions made in the past. As the saying goes, their prior decisions and choices just caught up to them. These outcomes still seem to be particularly harsh even factoring in prior minor poor decisions. So my mind still comes back to the question – why them and not others? I have no good answer, I don’t think there is a good answer. As a logical being it is hard to accept that there isn’t a good answer to the question “why?” though. I can’t blame any one person, event, or situation that is obviously the cause of why these things have happened to these people.
I will accept this and move on as I have done in the past. The next time anything like this happens though, I will be right back where I am now wondering why I don’t have any good explanation for what just happened. At least not a satisfactory one.